server: Make wl_object and wl_resource opaque structs

With the work to add wl_resource accessors and port weston to use them,
we're ready to make wl_resource and wl_object opaque structs.  We keep
wl_buffer in the header for EGL stacks to use, but don't expose it by
default.  In time we'll remove it completely, but for now it provides a
transition paths for code that still uses wl_buffer.

Reviewed-by: Jason <Ekstrand&lt;jason@jlekstrand.net>