revise VNC/RDP option selection
the RDP side of things was actually confusingly wrong as it was tagged RUNTIME but was required at buildtime. this was because we have the buildtime stuff doubling as feature selectors. this is a bit meh and indeed a similar case was discussed a while ago in #kde-devel with the conclusion mostly being that optional deps are meh and opting out of stuff is probably much more expressive. so. this commit make the user opt out of features rather than enabling them when dependencies are available. cmake options WITH_VNC and WITH_RDP now control the relevant feature sets. they are both enabled by default. when disabled the relevant deps aren't being looked for anymore, still enabling the user to opt out of a given feature set. this then also frees up freerdp's package to be proper RUNTIME because the feature enabling is controlled by the option, not the presence. both options also express themselves in the feature summary to further aid expressiveness and discoverability of the...